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Authentic presence – tashi deley February 15, 2011

Posted by Vincent in Uncategorized.

I came across a story today that really touched me. It was in a book entitled ‘Executive EQ: Emotional Intelligence In Business’ (Cooper and Sawaf), 2000, Texerre, London.
The story is too long and involved to rerproduce here but it was about two people from different cultures exchanging the knowledge of one phrase of each of their languages. The first, a Tibetan boy, taught the other the Tibetan greeting ‘tashi deley’. It means that the sayer is recognising the greatness in the other person. When it was the turn of the English-speaker, their offering was ‘hello’. Once the boy had learnt how to say hello he asked what it meant. It is also a greeting said the English-speaker to which the boy said,”and does that also mean that the speaker honours the greatness in the other person?”

“sadly, no” said the English-speaker… by now in tears.

The cultures prevailing in the Western World seem to come up short with regard to treating people with unconditional positive regard. We do not naturally have our greatness, our fundamental spirituality recognised in the way represented by that simple yet potent Tibetan phrase.


1. Shweta - April 21, 2012

Dear Vincent,
Your writing reflects openness to accept what is amiss inyour culture. Here I would proudly like to share that in Indian culture we greet by saying ” Namaste” which means that -The Divine in me recognizes and honors, the Divine in you.

Vincent - April 22, 2012

Shukriya. I thank you for adding richness to this conversation thread. Since I wrote the post I have watched ‘Avatar’, James Cameron’s wonderfully evocative film, set across two worlds, the one we know and the other, the alien planet of Pandora. The Pandoran race he created, the Na’vi, use a wonderful greeting “I see you”. It actually means I accept you for what and who you are. In the field of counseling, Rogers spoke of having “unconditional positive regard” for your client. – I suppose both are at the heart of Tashi Deley and Namaste (amongst other greetings) and the sentiment I feel is actively missing a lot from the Western World I inhabit.

2. JOHN AMATO - March 1, 2014

Hi Vincent,

I guess it’s up to us to change our part of the world…one person…one interaction at a time 😉

Robert K. Cooper’s “The Other 90%…” is one of may favourite books of all times and that’s where I first heard the saying “tashi delay”.

As I’m out and about my goal is to keep the meaning of tashi delay in my mind as I smile and say Hi to people.

All the Best!


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